Get the hint...

I'm not really one for offering dating advice, because I've only been "dating" since I was 11, and 12 years isn't really that long.

But remember Neil from Addiscombe?

The other day I got a text message from him asking how I was. I ignored, and deleted, it.

And then today I got another one. And this time I replied. Here's how the conversation went:

Neil: hi Emma, wanna hang out next week?

Me: no thank you.

N: why not?

M: because I'm not interested. Thanks anyway.

N: why did you give me your number?

M: because you pushed me into taking yours, and then made me drop call you. It was 2am and I'd been drinking

N: did I push you? All I said was take my number. Then you gave me a miss call. Why aren't you interested?

M: because I have a boyfriend, like I told you, when you approached me, when I was alone at 2am. So thanks, but no thanks.

N: alright cool. Remember you said you a have obsessive bf, is that right?

M: yes. That is correct.

N: alright do you like having a obsessive bf?

M: yes.

N: I would have thought. You need some escapism, correct?

M: and that is why I work long hours. I can't see where this conversation is going, so goodbye.

N: just making a point thats all

N: you can chill round my place if you like

N: like if you wanna escape, you can chill here

N: if you change your mind. Text me.

This is copied word for word, and with any typos either of us made.

I'm not an expert at dating or love or talking to women, but I'm telling any men reading this, you should learn when to get the hint.

I may have lied about my "obsessive bf" (and does anybody EVER like having an obsessive bf? I know I don't, but it was the easiest lie I could come up with at the time) but if I did have a real boyfriend, why is he still trying it on? I haven't got the best track record but is that not sacred? What kind of man approaches a young woman on a dark street at 2am, and despite being told she has a boyfriend, continue to try it on with her?

Should I admire the fact that he tried? 

Should I have said to him that I only took his number to get rid of him? Because I was worried about that if I continued to say no he'd get aggressive? 

What would he have been like if I had said I was single but not interested?

Maybe I should have just said I was a lesbian? But then he'd probably say I wouldn't be gay after a night with him.

But now I'm making assumptions.

But seriously, 4 texts after I said goodbye.


*UPDATE 7.9.12* He text me again during the night, about 1am.
N: would you come and see me for one night?

I have not replied. I'm kind of hoping he just goes away eventually...